it's okay to poke for closure.

You have a great couple dates with a guy and think things went well, so expect he'll call... but he never does, and basically falls off the face of the earth. You assume he's just not that into you (it's true, otherwise he'd want to see you again) but kinda want to know what happened. Wait awhile, then casually reach out about something you discussed- he just might get back to you with a respectable explanation that has little to do with you. Which means you can stop overanalyzing whether you had a half glass of wine too many or if its because you seemed clueless when he brought up the attack in Norway.